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I just don’t get it.

Jesse James cheated on America’s sweetheart Sandra Bullock with this stripper/porn star Michelle “Bombshell” McGee:

(From www.thesuperficial.com).

Okay, I get it but I still don’t get it. If he wanted to hook up with a walking, self-destructive tattoo, why the hell didn’t he get that out of his system before he married Sandra Bullock? 

Maybe it was just about ego.

These cheating rumors come on the heels of Miss Bullock’s Best Actress win for The Blind Side and soon after another Best Actress, Kate Winslet, announced her split from Sam Mendes (a man she claimed loved her just the way she is in her Oscar acceptance speech).

Can men’s big egos not handle it if their woman is more successful? Or are women settling for guys that aren’t right for them?

It certainly appears to be a curse in the actress world. Seven of the past 10 Best Actress winners have seen their relationships crumble soon after they took home the little golden man. Here’s a quick rundown … 

• In 2000, Hilary Swank won the award but forgot to thank then-husband Chad Lowe in her acceptance speech; she and Chad divorced in 2002.
• In 2001, Julia Roberts thanked boyfriend Benjamin Bratt while accepting the Oscar for Erin Brockovich, but three months later they were over.
• After Halle Berry won, her husband, Eric Benet, went to sex addiction rehab. He was sleeping with Halle Berry and couldn’t keep it in his pants. Unbelievable.  They divorced in 2003.
• In 2004, Charlize Theron promised that she and boyfriend Stuart Townsend would not get married until gay marriage was legal. Unfortunately, or fortunately, they broke up soon after.
• Reese Witherspoon and hubby Ryan Philippe were all smiles when she won an Oscar in 2006 … but eight months later they got divorced and he took up with another actress.

Comparatively, only one of the past 10 Best Actor winners has divorced his wife (Sean Penn). Moreover, six of the Best Men are either married or in longterm relationships.

What gives? Well, the men who are in committed relationships are married or dating women who are not working actresses. In fact, the Best Actress women who are still married are with directors – the one person on the set who can tell her what to do and she has to listen. 

I do not think this is a fluke and I don’t think it is limited to Hollywood. It already takes a very special, very secure man who can handle a wildly successful woman. And, in fact, many men love it when their ladies are self-assured, kicking ass and taking names women.

That said, men are competitive and they like to have their egos stroked. (Women like to be told they are special and beautiful. It’s just the way things are on a fundamental level.) So it would seem like the issue is not that a man can’t handle a successful woman … he just doesn’t want her to be more successful in the same field.

Moral of the story? Be all you can be baby, just don’t beat him at his own game.